tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post3258518520878175570..comments2024-02-11T02:09:23.512-08:00Comments on An Inch of Gray: The Gift of FearAnna Whiston-Donaldsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14921348961654008115noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post-16216099988984502122010-11-27T18:25:28.470-08:002010-11-27T18:25:28.470-08:00I read "The Gift of Fear" a few years ag...I read "The Gift of Fear" a few years ago. It is a challenging, but worthwhile read. The book goes beyond telling you to trust your fear instinct - it spells out the ways that predators typically approach their victims, cultivate relationships, etc. It is hard to read because the author uses real-life cases as examples, and you cannot help but ache for the families involved. However, I believe that you end up feeling more empowered to spot potential threats to your own family. In fact, your post has inspired me to read it again!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14353151456644992158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post-12500470340928531032010-11-27T16:59:15.961-08:002010-11-27T16:59:15.961-08:00I too, am not good at speaking up. But I have rais...I too, am not good at speaking up. But I have raised 2 sons and one is great at it and the other is not. Personality also plays a part in how our kids turn out. Don't take it all on yourself. <br />I am sure trying not to! Ha!Brenda Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842228644349167297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post-77449658540057226212010-11-27T16:22:15.357-08:002010-11-27T16:22:15.357-08:00Girls, especially, are raised to not make waves. I...Girls, especially, are raised to not make waves. I, too, hope I've taught my daughter to be assertive, but you just never know.<br /><br />This also makes me think about the time that I ignored the gift of fear (I was 16 weeks pregnant with Kyle and kept ignoring the nagging fear about spotting.) When I finally went to the doctor, she said, "Honey, you're in labor!" Since that day, I don't ignore my inner voice.Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post-13766461464358621702010-11-25T18:59:17.885-08:002010-11-25T18:59:17.885-08:00Anna,
It's not that I havent been reading late...Anna,<br />It's not that I havent been reading lately... It's just that I have been too busy to put together some thoughts to respond to a couple of you great posts.<br />This is another wonderful post that makes me really, REALLY wish that I lived close by... and had time to take you to lunch very often so we could brainstorm more ideas about how to save the world ... or I could just be in your bible study :)<br />I hope that you have had a wonderful Thanksgiving day... with the joy of sharing with family and friends outweighs the trials of traveling.<br /><br />In other new... my sister is moving back to NoVa so maybe I'll get to see you next time I come to town.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post-5457953827843222452010-11-25T10:08:10.170-08:002010-11-25T10:08:10.170-08:00I go through that with my kids - trying to teach t...I go through that with my kids - trying to teach them about when to speak up and when to ho-hum along. It's tough and there's a fine line. It's a balancing act that I don't think my kids are totally capable of, yet. I barely understand it.<br /><br />I'm with you on this. It is important to say something, anything when something is off. And to listen to that thing inside you that says it is off. Not to push it aside because of politeness and an unwillingness to rock the boat. I don't know what I'm trying to say except that I hear you and I GET this!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01897963154223770756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post-11122227444766760992010-11-24T13:11:07.300-08:002010-11-24T13:11:07.300-08:00yes.yes.kim jacksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12644007564677169827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post-33639620138821686262010-11-24T09:38:13.014-08:002010-11-24T09:38:13.014-08:00ABC has a wonderful news series called What Would ...ABC has a wonderful news series called <a href="http://abcnews.go.com/WhatWouldYouDo/" rel="nofollow">What Would You Do</a>. It uses hidden cameras to film experiments in social psychology where actors portray individuals in danger, and whether by-standers will get involved. Scenarios have been as diverse as abusive spouses in public, domineering or drunk parents interacting with their children, overly-affectionate teachers and tutors, racial and ethnic slurs and discrimination, and sleazy bar hoppers taking advantage of inebriated people. I think it might be a good way to start a dialog with your children and it might be a good tool to show them when it's right to stand up for someone else and to intervene. Just watching the show gives me hope in others--that there are people out there who will stand up to bullies--and gives me courage to stand up when things aren't right. Some of the segments might be a bit too...worldly...for some kids, though. Since most of the segments are online, you could filter out those that are most relevant to what you want to teach your kids.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04651719159131707497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post-2377127330145524562010-11-24T09:19:45.256-08:002010-11-24T09:19:45.256-08:00I wonder what happened where you live. It sounds ...I wonder what happened where you live. It sounds quite traumatic. Just like your TG plans. Hang in there, Anna. And remember, EVIL is just LIVE spelled backwards. Ha ha? No? <br /><br />jbhatAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post-79439577051812138642010-11-24T08:33:23.635-08:002010-11-24T08:33:23.635-08:00Wow! What a interesting conundrum. I can't w...Wow! What a interesting conundrum. I can't wait to read the other comments.Nichole@40daysofhttp://www.40daysof.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334921515741798160.post-47872559910468764122010-11-23T22:34:25.199-08:002010-11-23T22:34:25.199-08:00You bring up such a great topic here Anna.
I thi...You bring up such a great topic here Anna. <br /><br />I think it goes beyond not being afraid to speak up. I think it's such an important life lesson for kids to know that they can speak up in a tactful, respectful way. That they can have their voice heard and still be respected and keep their integrity in tact.<br /><br />We live in a world now where people often speak up in loud, obnoxious ways, and their credibility just goes right out the window. The flip side of that is people who don't speak up and their views are trampled. Often, people with valid, articulate opinions are completely obliterated by loudmouths whose opinions are nothing more than a slew of rude comments and name-calling. <br /><br />My point is this: In addition to teaching our kids that they should speak up, we need to tell them HOW to speak up. And we need to tell them to recognize sin but be careful about chastizing and instead correct with love and forgiveness. Too many people see sin and are quick to point fingers and criticize but do nothing to help the person recover from their sin. (not saying you do that. I'm saying I see a lot of it and it's frustrating.)Gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00039056206420438194noreply@blogger.com